Do you ever come across someone who's...like...
jaw-dropping gorgeous? A fellow girl, maybe a friend, maybe someone you don't know well, who just has lovely looks?
Of course, you're first thought is most likely how you consider her really attractive, pretty, beautiful, etc, right?
And all that is good. Its kind to think in positive ways of others.
The bad thing that happens, all too often, though, while admiring someone else's God-given gifts, is to then deem our own attractiveness, aka worth, below that person's.
Which, chica, is totally not what should happen. That's basically like just saying because the dolphin is a beautiful mammal, any other mammal on earth isn't in other ways because of the unique awesomeness of (the, NEEDLESS TO SAY, AMAZING, AMAZING!!) dolphins.
Let me tell you something:
THAT TRAIN OF THOUGHT IS SILLY, GIRLY.
Don't think I don't know how you feel-I understand, more than most anyone does probably. For example: my automatic reaction to seeing a good selfie of a friend on Insta or being with one of my lovely friends in person, is to think, why can't I just be more cute like her?
No matter what you think, doing that is a favor for no one when you think of yourself like that; thinking someone is worth more than yourself isn't all that flattering for her, or yourself.
Its sounds cliché, maybe-but you gotta embrace self-confidence in yourself, girl. You have to see the features that make you shine in your own way-maybe its your sparkling eyes, your perfect nose, your personality, crazy-awesome talents...yeah, there are a million and one ways you can recognize how special you really are and can be if you just let yourself.
So, yesh. That girl you think is gorgeous, IS. No doubt. But that doesn't mean you're not in consequence.
Because, in this beautifully bright world:
THERE'S MORE THAN ONE GORGEOUS.
MORE THAN ONE CUTE.
MORE THAN A SINGLE TYPE OF ATTRACTIVE.
The key is finding your personality, the true beautiful you, is seeing how God made you beautiful, & recognizing what's totally fab about yourself.
God made people all around us beautiful, cute and amazing; and while He was at it, He certainly didn't neglect you, either. He gifted you with amazing beauty: and God wants you to be aware of it. Thinking someone else is cute or attractive-that is no probemo! But in so doing, never forget that you're just as beautiful and worthy of self-love and respect, chica.
YOU'RE AMAZING.
XXX & lots of love,
Veroni
So you've reached your GPA goal finally- way to go, girl! However, a problem with grade point averages is maintaining that average and not letting it go down! Here are some tips to help ;)
1. Get all the extra credit assignments that you possibly can, complete.
2. Always complete your homework-just getting that done at least will have at least partially prepared you for those dreaded mid-terms later in the year, and you won't be marked down F's for missing work.
3. Set a time (daily or weekly) for you to review chapters, key material, take notes, and better understand anything you may be struggling to understand.
4. Always attend class, take notes, and listen attentively while in class. Just attending class, like tip #2, will really alone help your grades maintain or increase their percentage.
Happy studying!
XX,
Veroni
Just yesterday you were watching fireworks on the fourth of July. Now its time for back to school already! (Where does time go?) Once the school year hits, some tips to keep up the energy and interest for now and later can be helpful, so here are nine tips to keep in mind as you start off a new year of school! ;)
1. Keep confidence up. It doesn't matter what happens this year-keep that chin up and face showing! Who knows-this could be your best or worst school year-but keep up the confidence always! You're an amazing person who can do anything, girly!
2. No matter what happens, know who your best bud/s are and stay close to them. Support each other and be there for all the best girlies (and maybe guy/s) in your life. Prioritize their friendships!
3. Speaking of prioritizing, prioritize school and homework. No matter if you've always been a serious, straight A and B student through your school years, or consistently disliked school, make it a priority to get good grades this year and try to actually enjoy school if you don't already.
4. Get engaged in what interests you. If you really want to join that after-school art club, but you have some hesitation about it for whatever reason, go for it anyway! You won't regret joining a group or activity that peaks or encourages your interests and builds experience ;)
5. Don't overload. I'm sure you've heard that you should get involved in some activities, but at the same time, not to over do it; and even though this advice can be tricky to put into practice, this advice is correct. If you have a million activities and literally no "me time", you're going to end up overtired, overworked, and frustrated. Remember there should be a balance between activities, schoolwork, family, friends, and a relationship if you have one. It can't be all one of those things and none of the others.
6. Get to bed at a reasonable time. Too many teens are night owls-which at times can be a good thing, especially when you need to cram for a Chemistry final tomorrow, for example-but if you consistently stay up in the a.m. each night, there's no way you can perform your best the next day. (I speak here from experience! :P) So get some shut eye before midnight even rolls around on the clock! ;)
7. Eat healthy. Make sure vegetables and fruits are something you eat a lot of every day, and hopefully at every meal if possible. Its amazing what just healthy eating can do for you: you'll be more energized any day if you maintain a healthy diet then if you do not.
8. Keep focus on what's really important. And guess what that is? Having God #1 in your life IS the most important thing! Make sure on top of all the craziness of this and every year, God is most important in your life. Keep an active prayer life, live your faith, let Him guide all your decisions, and just always keep God #1!
9. Make sure you spend time with family. Make time for this. Your parents and siblings are just as important as acing an exam or winning that sports championship! Even if you have to schedule time with the fam (if you're that busy) do it.
Comment below with anything you struggle with during the school year especially, and how you try to overcome it in practical ways. ;D
Happy school year, girlies!
XX,
Veroni
Believe it or not, backpacks are (or at least can be) used for much more than just basic textbooks, notebooks and general school supplies during the school day. Whether its a habit to use your backpack for more than just strictly school or not, here's a list to look at with helpful items! :)
A planner. A planner's pretty much essential for a junior high, high school, or college age student. With the amount of school events, activities, homework and assignment due dates, and extra curriculars in a student's life, its necessary! If you don't have one already for this school year, make sure you get one-it will be really help organize your life and keep you on track for all daily and weekly events!
Headphones. If you're in a public place (or maybe on the bus ride to school) blocking noise best is to use headphones-so keep them in your backpack all the time so you never suffer for the lack of a pair! ;)
Snacks. This is kinda necessary in my case since I get really weak and faintish if I don't eat every few hours typically-but whether you're like that yourself or not, keep snacks handy in your backpack so you have an on-hand snack for whenever.
A book or magazine/s. If you get stuck somewhere in someplace (perhaps with no internet connection or with just nothing else to do) a book or magazine is great to have to read!
Extra makeup. Even if you don't freshen up your make-up through out the school day, have some spare lipstick, mascara and/or eyeliner (and whatever else you use if you wear makeup) in a small makeup bag handy for situations when it comes off or you need more. ;)
Well, that's a short list of some things that can be very helpful for you to keep in your backpack! Hope these (and any other items you can think of) will help you stay fully supplied with items in your backpack all day, every day, when you need them. =)
XX,
Veroni
Ahhhh...sleep! Its a thing of joy for us consistently overly-tired teens, but also something we push off and don't get an adequate amount of. Especially if you're a night owl, there's no way the lights are gonna be off at a time they should unless you push yourself to get to bed. Here are some ways to help you get more sleep, especially with a new school year starting soon! ;)
-Turn off the electronics at least twenty minutes before you actually plan to go to sleep. Because if you don't, you're going to end up texting more...and more. Until its past midnight and you remember you have to be up at five a.m. in the morning. :P And its also just healthy to give your eyes (and mind) a break from everything digital before sleeping. You'll feel more relaxed if you decide to write in a journal or read a book before sleep instead.
-Make sure you're not saving homework assignments and other to-do's for eleven o'clock at night. Get things that need to be done early in the evening, so you don't have midnight Algebra studying worries!
-Set a time you need to be in bed at. Something specific. Or even a time you won't allow yourself to be up at. (Like midnight...*winks at you because I know you've been up far past that time when you shouldn't have and that's why I'm writing this post...XD).
Hope these tips help you all to enjoy more sleep, especially entering a new school year when its really important! Happy restful (and substantial) sleeping! :)
XoXo,
~Veroni
Are you a procrastinator? Or do you at least frequently procrastinate? If so, you're one of probably millions of others, a lot of them teens, who always fail to place their top priorities first.
Haha I'm just kidding. That sounded a little harsh. XD
But seriously, procrastinating can have some nasty effects. If you procrastinate, you're bound to be putting everything at last minute, and finish what needs to be done with a sketchy at best result, or be up all night the day before (if whatever needs to be done has a specific deadline). Recently, I put off something that should have been done a long while before it was actually accomplished to doing it at the very last-minute, resulting in a poor product of what actually should have been created, which also didn't met nearly any standards at a Show...(Yes, this was a 4-H project I didn't do well on, and felt bad about myself afterward for it. I learned finishing something up last minute means your completed product isn't gonna look or do well :P).
So is there a solution to putting off everything for the tomorrow that never seems to come anyway? One thing to do (depending on what there is to do, maybe there's an extra curricular or school project for example) is to put all mobile devices aside, possibly, or at least not be consistently on them as much as while you're working on a project. It may be tempting to be texting your best friend while you work, but if it simply distracts you from the work instead of encouraging you, try to set aside the cyber stuff until later. (Sometimes I myself tend to work better while listening to music or a texting a friend while I work, it depends on you and your personality/how well you work that way).
Another thing is to make the goal of completion clear, and divide up the work for specific portions of time. Like, when I have extremely enormous school projects, (ten-page essays or what else have I xD) I will divide the work up every day for a week, or perhaps even longer. Dividing up the work has multi-benefits: you're on your way to completing what needs to be done, you're not as stressed, you don't have a pile of work to do in one sitting, and so it doesn't tire you out as much as if you had to do it all at once.
Hope this blog post is helpful for you if you struggle with procrastination! Let me know in the comments what you do to avoid procrastination or lessen it ;)
XoXo,
~Veroni
"I wanted to ask if you could do a blog about whether dating at a young age is okay, and whether you should give in to peer pressure about dating."
-Pressured & Wondering
I received this message from someone recently. I hope I can answer as well as I can and that it may be helpful for you girlie! Thanks a ton for asking for me to help you with this. (By the way, any questions or anything you need advice for, don't hestitate to comment or message me anonymously anytime, [or with your name, I will always keep your name private no matter how you contact me]).
First of all, by asking if dating "at a young age" is okay, designate what the young age is exactly. Personally, I think someone who is at least a teenager of perhaps sixteen or older could be fine dating (it all depends on your situation, maturity level, and so on) but something going on like an eleven-year old beginning to date is not okay. (I don't think you need to be dating when you're that young period :P.)
A question that pops into probably all girls' (and guys') heads at some point or another is, should you give in to peer pressure about dating? That is something that has a complicated answer, because you may have a desire in your heart to date someone, and adding peer pressure to that just makes the pressure to do so worse.
I'm struggling with this question right now myself, to be totally honest, and definitely know the feels!! Consider all of the following and ask yourself these questions first before you make a decision to date at this point in your life or hold off for a bit:
~Are you emotionally ready for a relationship at the moment? Sometimes people may still be hurting, and have not fully healed from a former relationship, while jumping into a new one too fast before their heart has had time to catch up and heal entirely. Make sure you're over all previous relationships substantially before entering a new one.
~Do you really want a relationship right now? Sometimes the peer pressure itself can deceive your feelings and make you feel like you really want to date someone yourself, but its all the people around you who are feeding you that idea instead of you desiring it yourself. (Not to say all people who start dating had previously been actually looking out for a particular special someone; sometimes "the one" shows up when you least expect it. Just clarifying that that is not what I am saying here ;))
~Can you handle a relationship at the moment? Sometimes, there may be so much more going on in school, extra-curriculars, with friends & family, and emotionally all round that just adding a relationship to the list in your life could become too much. Consider your problems, situation, and responsibilities right now. Would it be too much with a boyfriend in there as well? Could it be better to wait on dating until it'd be a better time, and just have friendships with guys in the mean time?
I hope this post was helpful for everyone wondering about dating, peer pressure, and all that hard stuff that comes to mind and heart as all you peeps progress through the teen years. Feel free to contact me in any way you'd like to ask questions, I'd love to answer any and all of them for any one of you in my blog, or through private messaging!
Be sure to comment below as well with your thoughts. God bless, girlies! <3
~Veroni
